FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Q Are there differences in how men and women experience domestic violence?
A There are both similarities and differences. Some of the responses to violence from a partner are the same. Whoever you are, being hurt by someone you love and trust can be devastating. You may feel bewildered and confused. You may wonder if it's your fault. You may feel too ashamed or embarrassed to tell anyone. If you do tell, you may find that you are not believed or that your abuse is trivialized. For all victims of abuse, the message is the same.
Q Is ESTEEM confidential?
A Yes, however if you disclose information which suggests a child or another adult is at risk it may be necessary to disclose this to a relevant third party.
This will not be done without your knowledge and if possible with your permission.
Q I am having problems with my partner being violent to me but I'm too afraid to press criminal charges. Can you help me?
A Yes, we can help you understand the process and put you in touch with a domestic violence officer, relevant legal advisor or solicitor.
This is not designed to get your partner into trouble but to try and stop the violence.
You should, however, report the incident to the Police and inform them should you proceed to take out an injunction.
Q My ex partner is threatening to take our children away. Can you help?
A Yes, this is a common problem; we can put you in touch with relevant agencies in order to protect the children and advise you of your rights.
Q To be quite honest, I am too ashamed to tell anyone about the violence I have experienced. How will you help me?
A ESTEEM is unshockable¯ and will not judge you. We are experienced in listening to people with the same problems as you.
We will not be disapproving or patronising. We will try to help you make progress towards a solution.
We will believe you, you are not alone, It is not your fault and help is available
Q How do I get in touch with you?
A You can call us on 01872 226981 or 07825 220 232.
You can email esteemmen@btconnect.com or andrew@esteemmen.co.uk
Q When should I phone you?
A You should get in touch as soon as possible. The slightest delay in seeking help can result in additional injuries or problems later on.
Q How do I get to your office?
A The male support worker will arrange to meet you at a safe place that is convenient to you.